When dealing with this sort of thing, I try to remind myself of two things:

1. The fact that gay people are sometimes racist, sexist, or even homophobic is good evidence that being gay is neither a sin nor a virtue; that is, “gayness” has nothing to do whatsoever with “badness” or “goodness”, and,

2. We are all sinners. Hate is a poisonous, destructive sin, and the only cure is love. (Not more hate!)

So, I really don’t get any more offended by hateful gay people than I do by hateful straight people.

PS I really dislike it when straight people tell me they “don’t usualy like gay people, but you’re OK”. (Because I am not really ‘flamey’)… Barf!