Hi James 🙂
I used to say “partner” but people would say “what’s he do?” etc. I used to go along with it but lately I’ve decided not to, because I want to be honest and also, it hurts my wife when I pretend she’s a man. She is very open about our relationship and doesn’t care what other people say or think, but I’m not quite there yet.
I’m from New Zealand, actually 🙂 Legal protection is good here, thank God!