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    Joe
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    Whenever I put my thoughts (through decidedly imperfect English words, I’ll be the first to admit) onto this “place”, (website? Blog? Please forgive my techno-illiteracy) I always try to think of every word I type as being subject to the most thorough of criticisms; that is, my words are being read not only through sympathetic eyes, but also by the most critical of critics, who would love it if I (in my thoughtlessly ungoverned passion) said something wrong or anathematic, so they could hold it up to world as a bad example and say, “See? I told you these perverts were evil to the core!”
    My question is, how “down and dirty” can we get with our discussions without being “gross” or “un-Christian”? I wish there were no such thing as “gay”… But that is a very selfish wish, I suppose… It’s such a heavy yoke… What do you all feel is “the limit” as to what we can discuss here? Sometimes there are things I’d like to talk about with you all that might be considered inappropriate by casual observers, so I don’t… The very last thing I want to do is “pollute” this web-place-thingy (or any other place for that matter) in any way… As someone who is “between worlds” and “under the microscope”, I feel that it is my lot in life to be ten times more careful with my words and 100x’s more conscious and deliberate with my actions than my critics are with their’s… And (as if 24/7 self examination weren’t chore enough; I don’t “sleep”, it’s only from pure exhaustion that I ever acheive a somewhat restful unconsciousnes, and all my waking hours are always filled with the dreadful “what if”?) I also have to remember and give it my best effort to be happy and joyful if/when I get persecuted. It’s all so much… Please pray with me… LJC,SOG,HMOMAS… Xristos Anesti!

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    Maria
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    Hmmm, interesting question…to which I don’t have any answer >_<

    #1605 Reply
    Joe
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    That’s OK, it wasn’t a very good question anyway. 😉 lol… I get to thinking and typing and sometimes I don’t stop when I should. I need to remember that sometimes “less is better”.

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    Maria
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    I don’t think it’s a bad question 🙂

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    James
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    Interesting lead post, Joe. It’s good to weigh one’s words when speaking–and especially when writing. That’s a way to be considerate to your hearer/reader. Still, none of us can guarantee that others won’t find what we say or write offensive or hurtful. Often someone’s reaction is as much due to something in them as it is to what we’ve said/written. So as speakers/writers we can only do our best, get our words out there–and relax.

    Maybe (the topic) ‘gay’ is a good example of that. When I say it, I mean my partner and I visit his mother in the Alzheimer’s care facility, stop off at a restaurant for a meal on the way home, watch a bit of television together before falling into bed and sleep. But despite my best efforts, some hear the word and envision Bacchanalian orgies, recruiting innocent children, the downfall of Western Civilization.

    Of course that doesn’t answer your question, ‘how “down and dirty” can we get with our discussions without being “gross” or “un-Christian”?’ I tend to think of this forum as equivalent to the coffee after a Sunday liturgy where everyone in the parish is GLBT-friendly. If I wanted to bring up a topic that wouldn’t fit there, I’d email Fr. Andrij privately to ask for his advice before posting to the group. I hope this is of some help as you wrestle with your question.

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    Joe
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    I Thank you guys for your carefully chosen words. 🙂

    I don’t want to talk about anything that gross… But I still have a hard time putting “God” and “sex” in the same sentence. I do express my love for my husband sexually, but it’s not the reason for our love. I didn’t get married to facilitate sex… In my mind, the actual physical act of “making love” kind of gets relegated to the realm of sneezes, tears, hiccups, and other bodily functions. I refuse to elevate it to the level of importance that all those “male enhancement” commercials on TV tell us it should be. (I have actually heard people say that lots of sex is necessary for happiness… totally false of course, but this is the prevailing attitude.)
    For me, taking good care of each other, (our families [spouses included], our friends, and even our perceived “worst enemies”) is so much more important than any kind of sex; gay, straight, or other.

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    Maria
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    I’m with you there, Joe 🙂

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