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    Isaac
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    I’m just curious to know your opinions. Would you prefer to date someone who is Orthodox or Non-Orthodox? Why or why not? I used to have a gay Orthodox Jewish friend and even he had a hard time answering this question.

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    Joe
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    Good question Isaac! I would love it if my husband happened to be “cradle Orthodox”, but let’s face it, it’s not easy for most of us (at least those of us who happen to live in that big empty spot between New York and Los Angeles) to find a gay Christian, let alone an Orthodox one that you want to be with… My guy is Episcopalian.. Lucky me! He could’ve been Muslim, or even worse! Maria (our friend on another question on this thingy) has a whole different situation…
    Looking forward to more questions and answers from you… This website is truly a blessing for me… Hope it is helping you too!

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    Maria
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    Joe, you say your husband is Episcopalian – that’s not so bad šŸ˜›
    What does he think about Orthodoxy?

    #1427 Reply
    Joe
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    Well, he doesn’t quite understand it, but he respects it… He knows that if the house burns down he is supposed to rescue my icons! He’s never said this himself, but because our local parish is Greek I get the feeling that he views it as “very foreign”… He certainly has no inclination to become Orthodox, but that could change over time as he gets more familiar with it… He is always patient with the fasting and stuff, so I guess I’m pretty lucky.

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    Maria
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    That’s really good to hear šŸ™‚

    #1454 Reply
    Isaac
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    I still don’t know. I will be happy to have a boyfriend where we both respect and love each other. If my partner were Orthodox, it would be good because we both share the same faith and we would understand each other’s need for prayer. If he wasn’t Orthodox, that would be okay too but I just wouldn’t want to have to explain everything I do to him such as fasting, crossing myself before eating. I wouldn’t mind explaining though.

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    Maria
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    If you find the right person, I don’t think it would be too hard to explain everything to them, Issac šŸ™‚
    If they are indeed the right person, they’ll respect your beliefs šŸ˜€

    #1456 Reply
    Joe
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    Wow… It never occurred to me that my husband would ever want MORE explanations from me… sometimes when I talk to him about religious/spiritual things he just kind of nods along with a blank-eyed look that says, “yeah, yeah OK, whatever you say Joe”… It’s like talking about sports to someone who doesn’t follow sports, but they like them and know enough about them to tolerate the occasional brief chat… I would be stoked if he was more interested in my faith and/or my interest in Orthodoxy. Thank you for helping me think of things from a new perspective; I am so glad he is at least tolerant and (non practicing šŸ™ ) Espicopalian. I couldn’t imagine being with an “angry atheist” or someone who belonged to one of those cultish x-tian denominations with which I strongly disagree.

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    Maria
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    Your last comment really resonates with me, Joe. I’m a teacher at a Baptist preschool and sometimes listening to their theology drives me nuts…I definitely could not be married to someone who’s (Christian) beliefs differ from mine so greatly.

    #1458 Reply
    Joe
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    Ooh… That’s gotta be rough! I had a roommate who’s kids just ADORED goingt to what I call a “Walmart church”… You know, the kind that sells cappuccino in the narthex and sings all those wacky songs and… well, I could go on and on, but I don’t wanna bash anyone… Anyway, they would come home from the Sunday Jamboree (or whatever they called their services) and I would ask them what they did and if they learned anything… They’d just look at me like, “What do you mean, ‘learn’? It’s not school… We sang songs and hung out (or fought) with our friends and we had a BBQ for the new bass player in the band! It was soooo fun!”… Of course they loved church; it was just a big party.
    It made me so angry to know that this is the biggest (and probably most profitable) “church” in my town, (it even has a bus that picks the kids up for all their shindigs) and that their parents didn’t know any better and frankly didn’t care.
    I tried to sneak in whatever actual information about Christ that I could, but what 14 year old girl wants to hear about Him when she can go whoop it up with her buddies and be assured that it counts as “church”…. It’s very very frustrating and difficult to be respectful and hold one’s tongue, especially when kids are involved. I just pray for all those kids who are being spiritually fed with only the sugary cereal (and not as part of ‘this complete breakfast!’ Lol)
    On a happier note, my agnostic sister encourages my neices to attend Divine Liturgy with Grandma (my mom) any time they want, and they love it! Alleuia!

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    Joe
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    I just realized that my last response was WAY off-topic… Sorry Issac…

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