Comments on: Was Jesus At My Wedding?

By: Mikhail

Mikhail — Sun, 31 Jul 2016 00:47:11 +0000

I tried to contact you using the online form, and sent this message, but I don’t believe it has gone through, so I will post it here in its entirely:

In your post “Was Jesus At My Wedding?”, http://www.orthodoxandgay.com/was-jesus-at-my-wedding, you mentioned that an Orthodox priest, from a canonical jurisdiction, had performed the Rite of Adelphopoiesis for you and your now husband. Being Orthodox myself, I have sometimes wondered if I could find someone willing to do so. While I know a few clergymen from various jurisdictions who I consider my friends, I don’t know how willing they will be to do this, even in a not so public ceremony. Any comments, suggestions, or ideas?

By: andre

andre — Tue, 11 Feb 2014 02:06:30 +0000

In reply to Georges.

Today at 9:00 PM

Georges,
Thank you for sharing your very beautiful story. I encourage other LGBT Orthodox to share their wedding stories via this page. If you care to share the text of the wedding, I can post it on the website under resources. For those interested there is a version of the “rite of brotherhood” the “adelphopoiesis” on the website under the tab “resources”.
Thank you again so much. Many the Lord bless your spoken word to each other, your commitment and your promise. Many Years! Hronia Polla! Mnohaya Lita!
Andriy

By: Georges

Georges — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 16:41:20 +0000

My own wedding was also a real joy. First of all, we had to find the building. We used the former nave of the church of a priory that had been secularized by the French revolutionaries. So, the place had been blessed in the past. «For herein is the saying true, “One soweth, and another reapeth”… Others have labored, and ye are entered into their labor.» We’ve put an altar, icons etc.

I made the brochures, with the adelphopoiesis texts both in original Greek (use of Greek Italy) and Latin (use of Dalmatia) on the left side, and the translations on the right side. I didn’t change anything of the original texts, but made a very literal translation thereof. And I trained an ad hoc choir.

The day before, my then-fiancé and I made the bread for Mass with our own hands and prayer, and baked it.

On the day of wedding, we had it at the city hall, and then the adelphopoiesis with Mass at the priory, with the proper of the feast of the day (Ss Sergius and Bacchus). After the clergy, we communicated first.

After the Mass, we had the supper. 100% vegan and with almost no alcohol. My husband and I opened the dance with Lacrimosa, «Hohelied der Liebe» (with is the whole chapter 13 of the First Epistle to the Corinthians, put into music).

What would I say? A very traditional wedding!

By: andre

andre — Wed, 10 Apr 2013 21:28:43 +0000

In reply to Rachel.

Rachel,
Thank you for your very kind comment. If Jesus was invited to your wedding, I also believe that He was there and in your relationship. Perhaps one day soon you will be able to have your marriage blessed by a priest.
You and your wife are in my prayers.
I bid you peace,
Andriy

By: Rachel

Rachel — Tue, 09 Apr 2013 09:42:13 +0000

Your wedding sounds absolutely lovely! I am so happy that you were able to have it celebrated in that way! 🙂
My own was conducted in a totally civil/state way, sadly, but I have always felt that Jesus was still there… He understands why it had to be that way, and I prayed and thought of Him and certainly made my vows before Him, if only in my own heart.