Dogs Yes, Gays No

November 1, 2025 

Dogs, yes! Gays, no!

The Orthodox icon of St-Christopher presents him as a warrior cynocephalus, a dog-headed man from Lycea. Sometimes he is also of gigantic size as well. According to his tradition, he was a Roman soldier taken from the far end of the world who converted and was martyred by an Emperor. (Icon of St. Christopher taken from https://orthodoxartsjournal.org/the-icon-of-st-christopher/)

A very dear friend of mine, a librarian, has dedicated much of her limited free time and endless care to raising guide dogs for veterans, the blind, as well as others needing loving support and companionship in their daily lives. She was instrumental in making sure that future guide service dogs were integrated into all parts of society, to better serve the humans they would be attending to. One of the numerous ways that she accomplished this was to bring the dogs to the school library to interact with the students and teachers. Having the dogs at school was very popular with students during stressful times, especially exam time, when petting the puppies brought their anxiety levels down considerably. As a dog lover, I relished popping in her office at least once a day to play with the dog of the day. To receive unconditional love from the dogs, especially during difficult days, was just fantastic.

For these reasons, I was pleasantly struck by the recent official communique of the Greek Orthodox Archdiocese announcing that they were “adopting a policy regarding service animals in our churches as a first step to ensuring all parishes are accessible to those suffering from physical disabilities.”[1] The official episcopal decision, posted September 14, 2025, is quite welcome and noteworthy but also raises a few questions. The statement indicates that this is a first step, leaving me speculating if other steps regarding additional ways to welcome those “suffering” will be or were considered to hopefully be included later. Also, the directive specifically only mentions physical disabilities, and I wonder about other “disabilities” such as emotional or mental. Despite these questions, any step to ensure that all people are welcomed into the house of the Lord to worship Christ is certainly a holy task. Interestingly, the bishops at this meeting also had the time and energy to decide that “traditional folk dance festivals” should be advanced to a “national ministry.”[2] A worthy endeavor, I am sure.

While greeting the decision and official step to making parish churches more accessible and welcoming (queue traditional dance music) to those with certain disabilities, one searches in vain for a sincere, open welcome to persons who have not traditionally been welcomed in Orthodox Churches, namely those of us who are LGBTQ. The last “official” statement from the Assembly of Canonical Orthodox Bishops of the USA, to which the Greek Orthodox Archdiocese belongs, was over ten years ago, in 2015, after the US Supreme Court decision to allow same-sex marriages.[3] Using terms such as “strongly disagree, an invention, immoral, unjust, harm, and threaten”, the bishops leave no room for any meaningful acceptance of LGBTQ Orthodox, or those LGBTQ interested in the Orthodox Church, or even the families, friends, and allies of the LGBTQ Orthodox faithful.[4] And yet, in the last 10 years, Greece, as a predominantly Orthodox country, has legally adopted same-sex marriage[5], and war-torn Ukraine is openly discussing allowing for same-sex marriage.[6] And while Ecclesiastical decisions should never be decided by civil governments alone, it should concern the bishops that in nearly 40 countries, same-sex marriage is now legal,[7] and certainly in many of those countries, there is a considerable number of Orthodox Christians who voted for or are in support of these laws. Are the bishops deaf to what their own faithful are experiencing, living, or supporting? And while it is heartening to read about a greater understanding and action to meet the needs of those with physical disabilities by welcoming dogs into Orthodox churches, where is the open and honest conversation, dialogue, thought, and actions with the bishops concerning those Orthodox Christians who are gay or lesbian or transgender, those in same-sex, state-sanctioned marriages, or those same-sex couples raising children? (more…)

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Welcome Home!?

July 3, 2024

Welcome Home!?

The architectural layout of a traditional Orthodox Church is something that I have always loved. Usually, the conventional interior design of an Orthodox church has three main sections, the narthex or vestibule, the nave or main part of the church/temple, and the sanctuary or the altar area. While I imagine that most people do not think much about the vestibule or narthex section of a church, traditionally it is an essential part of the liturgical rites of the Orthodox Church. Those preparing for baptism, the catechumens were to remain in this area and were prohibited from entering the main part of the church. It was also the place penitents were relegated to stand during the Divine Liturgy until the end of their penitential period. Today, many of the divine services and mysteries of the Church, begin in the narthex. For example, baptisms, marriages, funerals, and certain Lenten and Holy Week ceremonies are called to start in the vestibule. Today, in many Orthodox Churches the vestibule is the place to purchase and light candles or find parish bulletins, but rarely is this area given much of a second thought by most Orthodox Christians. The important sections are usually seen as the nave or church proper as well as the sanctuary, behind the iconostasis or icon screen. (more…)

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A Gay Man’s Dormition Story

Through the generosity of the editors of “Orthodoxy in Dialogue,” we are pleased to re-post a wonderfully sincere and poignant piece entitled “A Gay’s Man Dormition Story”, published on their website on August 15, 2023, by an anonymous source. Please read the full article by following the link to “Orthodoxy in Dialogue” below, following the first paragraph of the work.

The lenten period for the feast of the Dormition of the Theotokos was always somewhat unwelcome to me. As a child, it meant the winding down of summer and the return to school which I so hated. As an adult and a teacher, those emotions did not change all that much. This was a time to treasure those precious remaining days of summer. Somehow, eating just the salad at a barbeque or going to church every night for Paraclesis felt like a letdown, or maybe something to blame for all the unfulfilled expectations I had hoped for during the summer break. It wasn’t until much later in life that I was able to appreciate the blessings that this holy time offered.

https://orthodoxyindialogue.com/2023/08/15/a-gay-mans-dormition-story/#more-23179

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Killing Birds

Killing Birds

September 12, 2022

St. Demetrius of Basarbovo

In Florida, where I live, there are many insects and reptiles. We find some of these “intruders” in our house a few times a week. Various spiders, palmetto bugs, which is just a fancy name for cockroaches, anoles, which are small, slender lizards, frogs, and even very tiny baby snakes find their way into our home. I cannot blame them since their ancestors occupied the land before we did. Unfortunately, I have a deep fear of snakes and my husband detests spiders, therefore, we have an agreement in our marriage, I get rid of the spiders and palmetto bugs, and he carefully coaxes the lizards and small snakes outside. I am not as kind to the small interlopers as he is. It works wonderfully. However, if the snakes get bigger and ever come into the house, we are moving to Alaska! (more…)

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My Friend

My Friend

August 7, 2022

In high school, I had only one good, best friend. The reason for this was probably the way I saw myself and the fact that I frequently tried to hide, not wanting to call attention to myself. When you were a fat, gay teenage boy, in the late 1970s living in the suburbs there were not many opportunities to be proud of who you were. Of course, I knew that my parents loved me, although my father constantly commented on my weight, but it was not the same as having a true friend, one in whom I could confide, sharing my thoughts and dreams. Finally, late in my junior year, I told my best friend that I was gay. Although not attracted to him at all, I did hope that there was a slight possibility, that he was gay as well. The reaction that I got from him was utterly devastating. He told me that homosexuals were horrible people, and then he threatened to tell my parents my deepest secret, which I thought would be safe with my best friend. I was instantly terrified. The idea of my parents finding out my secret was devastating to me. (more…)

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